An individual approach - choosing a school for twins...
Helena & Grace Burt
Parents: Mary & David Burt
Location: Bedford
Case Study: St Andrew's School Bedford
Our starting point in choosing a school was to find a place where the teachers had time for everyone in their class. We wanted somewhere that would treat our non-identical twin daughters as individuals and tailor learning skills to their needs. A school that had a happy, caring environment where they would be nurtured and encouraged to grow to their full potential.
We embarked on the usual research, attended Open Days and went for visits but none really gelled. Then by chance at a charity dinner we sat next to a lady who taught at St Andrew’s and persuaded us to visit. Immediately we were “at home” made to feel welcome and special. The girls had a taster which reinforced their initial feelings. They would be in a class of just 16; half the size of their previous class. Despite the usual childlike longing for all that is familiar they were prepared to start afresh and to do so with enthusiasm and excitement; no mean feat for a seven year old.
Was their enthusiasm and excitement realised? Well it’s fair to say absolutely, their only sadness is that they have to move on to do their A Levels. So what have they achieved in personal terms? Each daughter is very much her own person considerate but not dependent on her twin. Both have grown in too many ways to mention! They are caring and have been involved with numerous charity fund raising events even cleaning cars in the rain. They can work well in a team in drama or sport and more nerve-rackingly as public speakers and soloists at concerts. They are confident and can hold their own in most debates pressing their point in a firm but polite way with a liberal sprinkling of humour. Each level of school life carries some new area of responsibility which has led to them being focussed and self reliant. Older girls help younger ones with paired reading and across the years activity afternoons all instil a family ethos where all members are valued and can have fun whilst learning. They have plenty of friends and the camaraderie is a vital part of school life and helps to develop future social skills. They are rarely phased, be they dealing with pupils in reception class or the Mayor! They organise their work well and are conscientious and committed, eager to face the next stage of their education. In short they have the confidence to be themselves.
Only time will tell what they will make of their lives but they have a strong foundation on which to build – it’s a legacy beyond value.
Choosing a school is stressful. Every parent wants to get it right. It is arguably one of the most important and complex decisions you may make. Look at your child and choose a school that’s right for them. Don’t go for a school that simply fits your ideals or pre-conceived views. Some girls thrive by being a big fish in a little pond others prefer a larger environment. Remember that happiness goes hand-in-hand with effective learning. After studying the prospectus, exam results and inspection reports look at how you are treated and greeted on any visits and try and talk to other parents. Consider how the other students react to visitors and the quality of work displayed throughout the school. Seek examples of communication with parents, newsletters, homework folders or diaries ask for any events calendars. Is the PTA active what social/ fund raising initiatives are there? All these indicate a vibrant and committed school community.
Ultimately though we think there is a “feel”, a sense that you know when you arrive at the right place. That’s how it was for us; we hope you find the same vibes.
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